If you learn someone is backbiting about you, send them flowers. They're giving YOU... THEIR good deeds so why get upset about it? You can't control it and you're benefitting so why get upset about getting more good deeds? Yes it can be hurtful but when you're up there in front of Allah with nothing left it could be those good deeds that get you over the bridge into Jannah... PS: A message to the people who constantly gossip and backbite, you're actually only really harming yourself. Please think before speaking  SHARE this message so everyone understands backbiting has no place in Islam.